obie

The best thing is to show tough love and let a child learn from the consequences of her actions. If she lives with her ex's family, and she does not contribute in any way, acts disrespectively, does not do chores she will be kicked out quicker than any family member will ever kick her out. This is the only way children learn. When they are on their own, are homeless, etc that is the jumpstart they need to start working hard.