hello! i am in the same boat as you!!! today is my first time on this website. i just posted one called tempers. her doctor told me to read this book called 123 majic and i am not really finding anything with it that we haven't tried but maybe you would. my daughter will get so mad that she will rip her closet doors off and throw things down the stairs. bite, kick, punch and steal. i also am not sure what to do. we have also spanked, gave time outs etc. and she seems to be too stuborn for all of it. sorry i don't have much else to offer but just to know you are not alone
roxanne