fallon

I know what you mean...My dd's father is in prison but before that he was not active in her life at all...he'd see her maybe once a month for like 5 minutes. His parents however see her overnight once a month sometimes more. I remind her when she starts talking about daddy's that some men just aren't ready to be daddy's and I tell her how lucky she is that she has Ryan who does all the same things a daddy would do and loves her just as much if not more than any daddy could loves his daughter. I also tell her that parents can't really choice their kids but how nice it is that Ryan was able to choose a daughter and he picked her. I tell her that Josh (bio-dad) loved her very much but just couldn't handle being a daddy, maybe one day he will realize how silly he is for missing all the wonderful stuff she does. I never never bad mouth Josh (in front of her anyways) but when the daddy subject comes up This is how I handle it. If your ex is making the choice to be absent in your sons life then you should feel like you HAVE to convince your son that his "real" dad loves him...don't say he doesn't or anything. I guess the way I see it is I don't ever want my daughter to think I was lying to her about her bio-dad so I just tell her things about him that I know are true...no false promises

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