trayntay

I know how you feel! We took our daughter to an OT for about 6 months - she recommended the brushing treatment, muscle strengthening exercises, joint compressions, etc. We did all of it for a while, then her Dad decided he wasn't seeing any changes, so he didn't see the need to continue. We also began taking her to a child psychologist to help her deal with her "temper fits" as we called them.

We have gone through 3 therapists off and on, and now we are back off. My daughter has progressed greatly, but I think a lot of it has to do with my research and changing the way I parent her. I don't expect the same from her as used to. I have resolved myself to ONLY buying her clothing I KNOW she will wear, I don't complain about her not wearing socks, pants, tights, or shoes that surround her foot. We only take a bath every other day (unless necessary) and we don't worry about drying her hair with a blowdryer. If she doesn't exactly match when we go out - oh well.

I still struggle with her Dad and his Mom (we are no longer together) understanding. They don't "believe" in the disorder, so I have to keep reminding him not to spend money on things unless she is with him! Otherwise, he will be taking it back - or wasting it.

This year she started acting lessons (she is a natural drama queen) and I have seen a HUGE difference! It has helped her self-esteem greatly. She knows she is not like other kids in what she likes. We have had many talks about it. There were a few years where she got teased for not wearing pants, only dresses - or not wearing tennis shoes.... She tried to do those things numerous times, but just couldn't. And I just kept telling her it was okay. Her true friends don't seem to care. Now I am just praying she will be able to handle middle school!

To answer your question (in a VERY long way), I don't know if the therapy worked or she has just learned to adjust. I think a little of both. I also believe her medication (Lexapro and Risperdol) helped quite a bit. I struggled with the medication issue for a long time, and finally gave in just over a year ago. It has really helped her to keep her composure when she gets frustrated. Now she can peacefully figure out a way to deal with her problems.

I know it is VERY difficult to know what to do. There is no easy answer, and no two children work the same. I can only offer suggestions based on our experiences. I only hope it helps in some small way - I always wished I could find someone who understands!! And still do!

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:wubclub: Tracy