zookeeper

My ex-husband is trying to take our children out of private school. Even though they have been in private school since pre-school (they are now in 2nd and 3rd grade), he claims he never “agreed” with private school. Some of his arguments are (1) it will make them elitist and (2) since he didn’t go to private school, but makes a lot of money, his children don’t have to go to private school. My gut tells me he is trying to get out of our settlement agreement to pay ½ of private school tuition if we “agree” on private school. The difference between now and when he originally signed that document is that now (2 years later) he is remarried, has a new baby and moved across the country. I understand he has another life now. I don’t have a problem with that. However, as the sole caregiver and educational support person for his first two daughters (one who tested as gifted and talented so needs more challenge; and one who is bright but a slow processor so needs a smaller class and greater teacher attention) for the foreseeable future, I believe I should have greater say in educational decisions on their behalf. I thought for sure when he moved away, he would change his mind and give them the best education money can buy, since he was not going to be available to help them himself. But no such luck. Perhaps he really is philosophically opposed to private school. He wouldn’t even agree when I offered to pay the whole thing. Any comments, references, and/or past experiences relating to how I should proceed would be appreciated.