Originally Posted by mamab

If she had said something even in passing about suicide, you'd look in that diary without hesitation to see if she were seriously thinking about it. If she were playing with a gun, you'd do what you had to do to keep her safe. Just because this is sex, it's no different. Ultimately you're responsible to her and FOR her, so I believe you're within your rights to look at the diary and the computer. You're doing what you have to as a parent to protect the child you love.

Also, I would suggest that if you and your wife haven't already, consider birth control of some type. If she's having sex at this age, it's not a leap to figure that she'll do it when she gets older.