BestICanBe

I guess I am just looking for other's experiences with this. My 16 year old daughter and I had a recent blow out. She was told she would lose her driving priveleges if she did not bring home passing grades. She brought home a terrible report card, full of F and D grades with excessive tardies and cuts. She blamed "senioritis" though she is just a junior. I told her she was grounded for the summer (in retrospect excessive) She took off with the car my parents purchased for her to her dad's house and refused to bring it back or surrender the keys.
We ended up towing the car back to my house, and she has said she is not coming home. She "is tired of going back and forth" and wants to stay there. My husband and I are the strict parents, her dad is the laid back, no consequenses guy, and won't back me up.

It has been 4 weeks, and I am losing hope of reconciliation. My therapist encouraged me to keep communication open, which I am doing, calling her 1-2 times a week and letting her know I love her and that the door is open. I know that part of this is normal, many parents tell me that she'll be back, but I don't know. Has anyone experienced this situation? My daughter is a sweet girl, but is very manipulative and has learned to play the sides very well. I think I am mainly mourning the loss of my little girl. I am standing firm on my rules, and I want her to experience the consequences of her decisions, but at heart, I just want her to come home.