jtee

Welcome to our parenting forum.

I can't speak to what should be discussed with at 16 year old because our daughter just turned 12 recently, but can speak to how we (95% my wife) have handled things so far.

My wife is really good\comfortable about talking about sex with our daughter and she started talking about sex at age 4 or maybe younger. Of course at that age the details that are discussed are very simple. Kids at that age accept things without blinking, and talking about sex can be as easy as talking about anything else they want to know about. As our daughter grew older they continued have Q&A conversations that were more and more detailed.

She started puberty a little before she turned 10, and that's when our daughter started to be more curious about sex, and my wife feels she should have started discussing more of the "Feelings" aspect of both girls and boys. Our daughter knew a lot about technical side of sex, but there is more to sex than just getting pregnant and having a baby. It is more in hindsight, that we realize she had become more curious about the "Sexual" side of sex, than the "Having a baby" side of sex.

Now that she is in her first year of middle school, my wife has had more frank discussions about sexual attraction and how to deal with boys who are becoming interested in sex.