just a dad

I've been a step parent to 3 kids for about 5 years. It wasn't easy goiung into it. The are all three good kids. Never in trouble with the law. Good students etc. They are all 3 21 or above now. One of the girls has a son. So that makes me his "step grandpa'

I treat the kid good as i always have the other kids. Since he is only 4 I play with him, watch tv with him and try to teach him right from wrong. it seems like I can never do anything right. I buy him stuff. Hot Wheels and action figures (Spider Man) And give it to him as incentives when he behaves and eats his dinner etc.

I was told last week that I can't give him anything else because he has too much already and the action figures I gave him could give him night mares.( He watches Spider man all the time. Has all 3 of the movie)

There are times when he has gotten rowdy and I've had to call him down so that he don't break anything or hurt himself. When I do I get crappy looks or comments from the other "family" members. Afew weeks back he was running and landing knees first into my daughters tote bag. I told him he needed to stop before he hurt himself or broke something. One of the step daughters spoke up and said "He's not going to hurt nothing" I explained to her that the bag contained a digital camera, IPOD and cell phone and not only could he hurt himself on them he could break them. Nothing else was said as I moved the bag out of the way.

One of the things that he and I enjoy doing is watching wrestling. I record the shows and we watch the matches. I was told last week that he is no longer allowed to watch wrestling because it is violent. I always explain to him that the wrestlers are not really fighting they are just acting and not really hitting each other But it's ok for him to watch Power Ranger and have him come in here doing somersaults and jumping off the sofa.

Last night we were at one of the kids house. They were watching HOUSE. During the show they were operating on a guys brain. he asked what they were doing and i jokingly said that they were taking his scrambled egg brains out. Well, we joked back and forth a few times and when it was time to go I just tickled the top of his head and said " I got your scrambled eggs brains". I was told by my wife that "They" don't want him hearing that" I just said "Oh this is getting ridiculous. She said "Well they don't want him going to day care saying that." I just said "Whatever" and we left.

Don't get me wrong. I'm all for respecting a parents wish. But I was just kidding around. I just feel like that anything that I do someone is just waiting to say something. The examples above are just a few of many over the past few years.

Also, It's not like I don't know how to raise/play with a kid. My daughter watched wrestling all the time with me. We rough housed and all of that. She grew up to be a normal, well adjusted almost 18 year old. She thought they whole thing was pretty stupid too.


I'm just about at the end of my rope. Next week when they come over I'm making myself scarce.