Thanks for the replies and support. On one hand, it is good to know that others are in similar situations. On the other, it is sad to know that others are in similar situations.
I was so irritated by her when they visited and then irritated with myself after they left that I've been thinking about it a lot. I think a huge part of it that she is so pushy. I feel like I need to keep the door to her shut or she will barge in and take over my life. I also have no control over any part of our relationship. They have almost every day of their lives planned for the next year, so they call and say "we can only come down on X weekend for the next 6 weeks to see our grandkids" and my husband feels compelled to agree (he talks with them - thank you, caller ID). I need to talk to my husband and see if we can actually pick a weekend and invite them before they invite themselves for the millionth time. Probably won't work or help, but at least I will have tried something.
And Alexis: You are right. It does feel good to vent. I have never said aloud that I dislike her. Just typing it probably lowered my blood pressure.
