SageMother

There are some situations that peple must live through to appreciate who they are deep inside.

It might be best for you to avoid addressing this issue withher and simply stick to those things that are more bearable.....

The rejection of the relationship by her room mate and her family are making it easier for this fellow to gain unfettered access to her state of mind. The more people reject her relationship, the further she will remove herself from that rejection, regardless of what is going on with the boyfriend. She apparently had already expressed her disatisfaction with school. He didn't really need to influence her too much for her to grow weary of living up to the desires of others in that area.

Even though this fellows way of dealing with life doesn't resemble the ideal, it could very well be that your daughter is not being influenced by him as much as she is choosing to make changes based on her emotional needs.

Please reconsider your approach. It appears to me, that she has been doing alot of things based on the desires of others. Maybe it is time to just love her, and avoid trying to convince her that her judgments about her life are not acceptable. If I had conversation with my parents like those you have described, I would feel rejected.