straighup1

Hi I will not give my real name but you can call me Max. I am 17 years old and I just stumbled upon this forum. I was looking around and I went to the puberty (mid-teen) forum because that’s what I am. I did not really mean to join the forums but this post is a bit unnerving.
Talking with your kids will bring them up (or down) to your level. They will see you more as an advisor and a mentor, less of the all commanding god. Since they will feel closer to you then they will be more upfront. Calling these people is one step away from the cops (which is a really bad situation). If, your child finds out about this they will feel like you have betrayed them. It will feel like you have stabbed them in the back. Relationships do not exist without trust.
Communicate, talk to them. If your kids are on drugs you should be able to tell, look for paraphernalia (pipes, rolling papers, small baggies lying around, pro-weed lighters and clothing -only tokers (pot smokers) use this stuff-), if they have burns on their faces, teeth look rotted, glassy eyes and check if theirs any solvents lying around. These are just a few things that could key you in. If you have a suspicion about them abusing then learn about the substance. Understand the substance and what it does, learn all you can then talk to you child. Remember if they are addicted that they no longer control the drug but the drug controls them.
Calling these people could be the worst thing you ever did for them and your relationship with them. If you are in danger as in real (you are about to get stabbed) peril then call the police, that’s it.

Ok for why my thoughts should be considered… I have done a fair amount of drugs and I find that a majority of kids will do some kind of mind altering substance at some time or another. From personal experience I find that the kids with the strictest parents tend to fall the farthest. Also if you were to take me (not literally asking you to) into anyone of your apartments/houses kitchens or bathrooms I could find for you at a minimum of 3 completely different ways to get a high (or otherwise intoxicated). This information is not to scare you but to make you realize that if someone wants to get high you cannot stop them. However you can advise them and give them support, turning them in the right direction. Although if they are addicted it is most wise to seek the help of a professional which does not involve the police or drug dogs, try a rehab center.

Remember that understanding what the drug does and how it affects the user are crucial to helping your kids. Try and understand what they are going through. Communication is essential.





not sure if i should post here because i am not a parent (yet) but, I hope this helps.
-max