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It shouldn't, but it all plays into the custody stuff I mentioned the other day. Evaluator is buying their BS that I am trying to contact him because I want him. She's even written something like that in her report. Frightening that anybody would beleive that, but she met with him AND the fiance before she ever met me, so she heard their party line TWICE. Meaning she has some pretty strong preconceived notions before she ever met me. Her policy stated that the initial meeting was w/the parents together, which is more fair. That should have been followed - but the meeting w/Amy before even meeting me? I think that is exceptionally inappropriate. Especially since I told her I could come in at any time. It wasn't a matter of that's how the scheduling worked or anything like that.

Her report also stated that I never accomodate and all of that - even though I have altered my schedule every couple weeks to cater to him.
I was stunned during our mtg when I said that I was tired of always being the one to accomodate his demands, while he is never willing to flex anything for me. Her response was "It doesn't sound to me like you accomodate anything." What? Kind of funny that I let him take Ry during MY scheduled spring break, accomodated 2 schedule changes w/his daughters to allow him to have them on the same weekend, let him take him for part of Easter, even though it was my holiday... the list goes ON and ON. I have a nice little color-code chart showing most of my accomodations - and the times that he didn't honor his committments. pathetic.
How odd is this? We met in Feb, and she finally issued the report on May 19. In her report, she wrote that I was a sub teacher, but hadn't been called in since February. Uhmmm... how would she have any idea when I was called in, since she hasn't spoken to me since like Feb 9th? It's really, really odd.
Fortunately, much of what she wrote can be easily proven false and my attorney should be able to render her entire report pretty questionable because of those types of inaccuracies.

He is not really interested in what is going on with our son, but I feel an obligation to let him know, simply b/c it's best for R. I also want to make it accessible to a few other people (such as his parents), inviting them to keep up to date on what's going on in R's life. My reasoning for that? Because I want this to be the primary method of communication - and he can't continue to make many of the claims he does with regard to R and visitation if select others can clearly see that his stories are not accurate.
I also know that he feeds Amy a whole lot of BS about our communication. I heard the same stories myself once, with regard to his ex-wife. It's going to be hard for him to keep those claims up if she can log in herself and see what is said.
Another plus - if I make headings like health, school, etc, it will say how many people have viewed it. If I post that he went to the docs and nobody has read it, that demonstrates a lack of interest on his part
So if I put it in some kind of private forum, I am in no way contacting him - just putting the info in an accessible place.

In answer to a calling comment, he is barred from calling me by a court order, due to the levels of harassment. And that isn't a good option anyway, since he lies so pathologically and I need to have everything documented. Does n't stop him from lying, but at least it gives me something to demonstrate theres a credibility problem