 Re: help!! | |
This is an extremely scary guy. I'm glad you're getting counseling. I hope that the counselor can help you to know the right things to do and say.
I'm glad you were able to just listen for now. That way she knows she can come back to you with all her concerns. This guy is extremely controlling. All sorts of alarms go off as I read your post. Even the folks he works for saw problems. He's not doing all this stuff out of caring; he's way too controlling to actually love somebody.
Telling your daughter that he was going to prevent her from dating losers is pretty creepy. Everything about him is creepy. I don't think your problem or your husband's is in letting go; it's in letting go to this guy.
It's a fine line when you talk to her. I hope the counselor can help you find a way to help your daughter discover that this behavior is totally inappropriate without being critical of him, because then she'll just stop seeing you. Love helps a person grow, it doesn't control like he's doing.
Please keep us posted, and I will most definitely keep you in my prayers. |