I nned to clraify a few things.
1) he likes to try to claim that he's "denied" all the time. If the info is made available to him, he can choose to access it if he wants to. If he doesn't, that's his perogative, but it would be available. How can I be attempting to "alienate" him as claimed, when it's very clearly documented that info was made available to him. Going through hundreds of pages of emails over the past few years gets to be a nightmare. But if I were to create different categories, it'd be all condensed into one categorized space
2) It's also not about his family "beleiving." However, it's hard for him to say that I am denying him and all of the other claims he makes when others can see that is not the case. I made at least 10 major accomodations in the past 2 1/2 months, but even the evaluator said that "it doesn't look like you accomodate to me." If you are choosing to miss it, it would be very easy to do at this point. It's less easy to do when it's all on the same page, rather than back-and forth emails. I can print the whole page at once and it eliminates the flipping back and forth between documents. That's what he depends on, that others are not exposed to his interactions with the other party. He's totally different when there is somebody to hold him accountable or he thinks there's even a chance somebody could be looking on. Even if he thinks member of my family are checking in on the site to see what's up with Ry, he's going to be different.
As far as Amy goes, she's made ludicrous claims regarding my contact (that it's "daily" and an attempt to get him back), but I think it's because she sincerely beleives what he tells her I know I did with regard to his ex-wife at one time. (and keep in mind, the evaluator bought every word they said, even when the facts contradicted it.. ). It's a little harder for her to make those claims when she actually SEES what is said. "Ry shoved a bead up his nose. @ docs to remove" is a far cry from an attempt to get with somebody. But that's not what he tells her. Just as he used to do to me with relation to his exwife (I only found out later), he'll just make things up to be able to play the victim. She can't really make assinine comments like that when A) she actually sees what is written and B) He's seeking out the info, not me directly contacting him
3) I don't anticipate a synopsis of events that occur between the parties - but rather when he decided that he is going to ask me to change the schedule, it's documented. Right now, these things come through meetings w/parenting coordinator, and she does not document who made the request. Only that a change was made. It's always ME making the adjustments, but you don't see that right now, because he's not asking in a written format.
4) he has no problem accessing my info on other internet formats. Amy has kind of stalked me around the internet a bit and he has made that known.
THe last advice I was given by the attorney was to make sure everything was documented. That would include providing him information
(he's claimed to the court before that he was not given information that he WAS given). Even when I moved and gave him the info, he claimed he didn't know where we lived.
For this reason, attempts to make info accessible to him need to always be clearly documented. accomodations, information about Ry's well-being and progress, etc. I do this by saving emails, but it's so hard to keep organized that way.