05-31-2008, 12:18 AM
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|  Re: Ok calling all parents of 8 and 7 yr olds | |
A brief explanation of how it works in our house ... with success... Quote:
Originally Posted by musicmom  ... My boy is 8 and is coming up with excuses everytime I ask him a question that he messed up on such as "why didn't you bring home your spelling words" and he will come up with three different excuses. ...
Excuses are untruthful, which justifies consequences .. to which was brought on by your own "excuses" ... you CHOSE to not give me a straight answer.. therefore you CHOSE consequence. It gives a child control, as they are all searching to who they are... but it gives them control in a way that shows them consequence and its better to be honest the first time
Then they have been getting a bit lippy. I feel like I am constantly yelling or correcting their behavior. I am wearing thin.
I RARELY raise my voice ... again.. as above ... consequence for your actions. I will very quietly and calmly let them know that because of their choice of actions .. they suffer the consequence.
When I am talking to another adult or on the phone they try to get my attention.
Again as above ... this is still a tough one though .. but for the most part I get "excuse me Daddy"
When we are around my family none of them will correct my children (probably in fear of me) but I ask them to correct them if they are doing something wrong because they need to know that other adults should be respected.
If Im there I will reinforce with my family at the time of the action in front of said child .. so both parties are aware that each know of the wrongdoing.
When they walk in a store they act like they own the store, it's like they turn blind and do not see on-coming people.
Stop them and have them apologize directly to the person ... action/consequence
I feel like everything I have ever taught them all went out the window and they are different children.
There is a simply cure for this ... dont become a parent LMAO Thats a common parental feeling at times
I'm at my wits end. So give it to me............. | Every situation and family is different, but I find in our family, respect is treated with respect .. all people have a voice and are allowed to use it .. respectfully... and when they learn they have control ... (somewhat) .. and good actions means nice life ... bad actions means consequence ... they figure it out fairly fast ...
Again .. this is in our house ...
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