josie

Thanks Lisa and mmynedshlp. He came into my bed last night and I had a chat with him (even though it wasn't exactly the most appropriate time). He doesn't have nightmares and he says that the reason he comes to my bed is that he feels lonely by himself and feels more comfortable (which he meant by 'safer') in my bed.

He then asked me whether or not I get lonely sometimes and I found this a good time to bring up his dad. He then said that if I get lonely he (my son) will come and keep me company.

So, from what I understand of that, he is missing his dad and he doesn't want me to feel lonely either - which I was very touched by.

The fact that he clings to me doesn't bother me that much, and what concerned me more was why he was doing it andthannks to your help, I'm getting somewhere with this now. Some people think it's bad to let your child come into bed with you, I don't know what your opinions are on this.

However, it's a bit much for a 7 year old little boy to take on board and feel responsible for 'looking after' his mother. I feel guilty and a bit concerned because of this.

I very much appreciate your advice.