Dadu2004

I'm going to take a bit of a different position on this. Yes, ultimately there should be a united front of the child. But, at this point, he is your "boyfriend". He is not your fiance or your husband. Therefore, quite honestly, it's up to him on how to raise his son. You can offer input and advice if he's willing to accept it, but it's ultimately your boyfriend's decision on how to raise his child. If he wants to raise his child as a "dependent" instead of an "independent" child, or sees no problem with it at this point, then that's his decision.

Now, the further that you progress in your relationship with him, the more influence and "say" you will have in the situation. I do believe that the boy's father should encourage independent behavior, but at this point that's his decision.

Sorry if I came off at a bit of an angle here....

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