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Originally Posted by iglis  In answer to your question regarding our relationship: no, we are not married, but have been together nearly 2 years and are older (39 and 45), so I expect this is a permanent thing, or I would not have moved in. I have one response and one question. My response is that I do feel that I have some right to say something as his parenting affects our relationship--for example, how do we get to spend time together if we can't even carry on a conversation because he's constantly interrupting with "daddy, daddy"? And my question is: What is the right age for being independent? Am I expecting too much? Shouldn't a five y.o. be able to put on his own clothes and pjs? brush his own teeth? go to the bathroom by himself? pick up his own toys? play on his own? |
You said that you only have him 2-3 days per week. Are you not spending time together the other 4-5 days per week?
Yes, ultimately a child of that age should be able to...my 4-year old does. In the grand scheme of things, being together for 2 years isn't that long. That means you've only been in the child's life since he was 3. I'm glad that your relationship is progressing and you view a marriage potentially, but one step at a time. You will get the right to be more involved, but right now, it's Dad's choice.