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Originally Posted by HappyMomma  I think it will help that he has already lost custody of a previous child, as well. |
This is not true even in the slightest.
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Originally Posted by musicmom Heidi all I can say is get used to this cycle because it will repeat itself. It's called the honeymoon phase. They argue, apologize, things are calm and then it begins again.
By allowing him to stay you have only taught him that it is ok to talk to you that way and treat you like that. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but it's the truth. I wish you the best. |
I agree its part of the cycle.
I wouldnt communicate with him anymore. Get yur butt moved because until the child has been in the other state for over six months he can still file in the state you lived in prior. The child is not under the others states jurisdiction until 6 months of residence. Which means you can move but your filings will be long distance. Do not communicate with him or give him any ideas or he can get a court order refusing you to take the child of state until all hearings are done and over with.
So play along with him for a while to let him think he can come louisiana and work things out. Then you are gonna have to wait to be an official resident and file immediately. You are going to have problems with that too because that will give six months of time where the court will say he had time to change. You will need to document all conversations. All visitations and pull any records of any law offenses if they were criminal or abusive. Those thank god are permnant.
You need to find out if he fought for his first child or if he let the mother have it without a fight. There might be good reason in that court paperwork you will need as evidence. Your word will not work in court. You will need documented evidence as to why you want your child supervised during visitation.
In the mean time listen to your friends. DO CALL the police if you ever feel threatened. Get the case numbers. DO file a restraining order if he threatens you or harms you in anyway. Save your paperwork.
Keep being nice but remember if you are doing the right thing the law is on your side with proof. No evidence and they dont care.