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Thanks all.

I know me and the wife need to get on the same page. But it is easier said than done. My daughter really isn't a disrespectful child. Really! It's just that she acts up at bed time. Boy, the mistakes we made. You know it still takes my wife 1-2 hours a night to put the 10 y/o to bed? She coddles and coddles her, and the wife gets fustrared (and me too). At age 3 I saw my daughters' sleep problems (and my wife's contribution to them). I reached a breaking point and banned my wife from the bedroom at night and within a week I retrained my daughter to go right to bed and be asleep with in 20 minutes. It took about 10 nights, but I did it.

Well, I think my wife's nose got put out of joint (as I was the stay at home parent) and maybe felt I was stepping on her toes. Well that lasted for a month til my daughter caught a cold, and boom!, my wife was back in her bedroom at night and ruined all the work I did. TEN YEARS LATER. she still has to put her to bed. I trained the second one, and she has been going to sleep on her own for 5 years, ans sleeps right through the night.

I'm just scared that my daughter's constant bickering and tears at bed time might cause some sort of psychological condition later in life (and yes, she still wets the bed too). Only at bedtime does my daughter antagonise her mother and send her away, only to start bawling, apologizing and wanting her back. And of course the wife goes running back at the first tear. I've tried to talk to her but she stares at me like a blank wall. I actually things have gotten worse over the past months. And I don't know what to do. Neither of those two get a good night sleep, ever, and are both cranky and moody because of this. I don't know what else to do or where to turn.