Amber

So, Cameron is 9. His biological father (Todd) has never been around since birth. I had Cameron 3 months out of my high school graduation. Now, Todd pays child support faithfully, but has never tried to have any kind of a relationship with Cameron whatsoever. Which is perfectly fine with me, as I firmly believe any man who walks away from his responsibility and a handsome, brilliant boy like my son deserves no kind of relationship whatsoever with my beautiful son.

Ryan has been considered "daddy" since Cameron was about 4 months old or so. To this day, even though we've divorced, Ryan is still Daddy. He still does Christmas for Cameron, still buys for his birthday, still has him for a bit on summer and winter vacation. I'll never tell Cameron that Ryan is not his daddy, because, even though we have our difference, Ryan IS his daddy.

My question...when do I tell Cameron that he has a different biological father? He's asked questions before (about 2 years ago). I've not told him the full-out truth, but not lied either. He's asked why his last name is different than the girls. I told him it was because I wasn't married at the time, so he took my maiden name. He's asked why Daddy wasn't at the hospital when he was born. We told him it was because he had to work. Things like that.

I know he's getting to the age, and especially with the divorce and remarriage, where he's going to want to know the truth. How in the world am I supposed to explain to my wonderful son that a man he's never met is his biological father? It breaks my heart to even know that I'm going to have to tell him.

Suggestions?

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