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Originally Posted by Mindy  Thank you for sharing Nikita. I think the way your parents did it was perfect. That is the way it should be. It's never a huge shock if they have been talking with you about it since you were little. It's always been a part of your story and it makes it easier to deal with  |
Not to hijack the thread too much, but yes, my parents were great about my adoption. I'm so glad they were open about it.
Our family was friends with a few other families that had adopted. The one family never told their child. Well, the child eventually found out later in life and things didn't go well. Basically, she severed all contact with her folks.
Another, waited until he was older, hoping he would understand it better. He was close to being a teen. They found it just confused him and he worried his bio parents didn't want him because maybe something was wrong with him. It ended up working out, as they talked with him and helped him, but it was a long process.
I truly believe that if you are going to adopt, you cannot hide it from them or wait to tell them the truth.
With anything that can be a big deal or life changing for a child, it's better to talk about it sooner rather than later. A lot of people don't realize that even toddlers can be smart enough to understand these things. Maybe not as we do, but it's still comprehension. And the more they know about it now, the easier it is for them to put the puzzle pieces together and understand it like we do when they are older.