AmyBelle

I grew up with a single dad and it was a similar friendship rather than parent relationship.

The problem is, she's a teenager, she's grown up all these years thinking that youre her buddy, so she treats you the exact same way she treats her friends, even if that includes the swearing and lashing out. Im just going off my expereince in the child role of this, but I think "laying down the law" and introducing boundaries on a one-sided thing now will get you nowhere. She dosent see you as a parental figure, and shes now at an age where its too late to introduce that. I think you need to sit down together and work out where these boundaries lie the way you would with two adults, explain to her why you lost her temper and hit her and explain why you feel that she should not be saying such things the way you would with an adult, also allowing her to have input, it will be much more productive. Youve already elevated her to adult status, you cant take that back now, you can amend it, but you cant remove it, it wont work.

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