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Originally Posted by Mindy  See, the only problem I have with this, is no one considers the child's feelings. What if the child doesn't WANT an anonymous father? What if they NEED to know, and I know from experience and from having spoken with donor conceived children, that they sometimes feel a great deal of anger that their mothers wants and needs seemed to come before their own. And I'm fully aware "fathers" can dissapear and make themselves anyonymous but at least if she gets pregnant "accidentally", they do have a way of knowing WHO he is, instead of never having the RIGHT, IMAGINE, never having the right, to know who your OWN father is?
Another JMHO. And it's all rhetorical, you don't have to respond, and I'm not picking on you sarush, just you brought up a great point, I wanted to address   |
I don't feel picked on Mindy...
The difference is, with IVF the father has a choice. He can choose to make himself available to the child knowing full well what the circumstances were. He knows that he is donating sperm with the intention of getting a woman pregnant who wants to be preganant. He can leave his information in the case the child wants to contact him for whatever reason it may be.
With the "accidental" pregnancy, it's almost as if the father of the child is "tricked" into the situation. Before I get yelled at:...yes I know that the potential is there to get a woman pregnant if you have sex with her. However, in this presented situation, the woman is deliberately trying to get pregnant without informing the man. This situation would then provide a major surprise and almost force the child onto the man. I wouldn't find this to be a fair solution.
I'm for a woman having a child if she's choosing to be a single parent, as long as its done in an up-front manner.