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Teresa · 07-09-2008, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mindy

My opinion might sound a little judgemental, so please bear with me

I fully believe she has every right to pursue motherhood on her own, HOWEVER I must admit, that I feel like they are a bit selfish when they choose IVF or surrogacy, and create yet another life, when there are millions of perfect children in this world who have no one. No forever family. And that is what she wants. If she truly wants to parent, I believe she should parent one of these children. Honestly no offence intended to anyone, just my dead honest opinion.

But why should that only apply to single people? Why not take it all the way and say that NO ONE should create a new life until every child in the world already born has a forever family? Is that fair? And if it's not fair to married couples, then it's no fairer to single folks.

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Originally Posted by Mindy

See, the only problem I have with this, is no one considers the child's feelings. What if the child doesn't WANT an anonymous father? What if they NEED to know, and I know from experience and from having spoken with donor conceived children, that they sometimes feel a great deal of anger that their mothers wants and needs seemed to come before their own. And I'm fully aware "fathers" can dissapear and make themselves anyonymous but at least if she gets pregnant "accidentally", they do have a way of knowing WHO he is, instead of never having the RIGHT, IMAGINE, never having the right, to know who your OWN father is?

Another JMHO. And it's all rhetorical, you don't have to respond, and I'm not picking on you sarush, just you brought up a great point, I wanted to address

No child ever gets to pick if the parents they get are the ones they want. Even if mom knows who the father is, that's no guarantee he'll be around, or be able to be found, or give a crap.