kalygulah

My boyfriend of a little over a year has a child with his ex and i really need some advice. I dont even know where to begin. She and i dont get along, im assuming for obvious reasons, and well when we first got together she was harrasing both of us and got to the point to where she was calling my job trying to get me fired. So i was fed up with it and we went to the police 3 times about her bothering us but nothing happened except its in the records for if she bothers us again. So anyway he finally changed his number and didnt give it to her, she has to call his mom for anything that has to do with their child (which is sad to me really) and she has stopped harrasing me BUT the catch, she still trys EXTREMELY hard to stay in contact with all his friends and when she does have the oppurtunity to talk to them she tells them all he still wants her and they still have sex and such which is all complete lies. They were also married i prolly shouldve thrown that out there, they are going through the divorce as we speak but she still hasnt signed the final papers which were sent to her over 2 months ago by his lawyer.

ANYWHO the point of the story, he and i moved in together in april and thats around when i started seing his kid bcause his ex would never let him have her, he literally would go 4 months without seeing her because she wouldnt let him have her. The first weekend he got her i felt really uncomfortable because im not used that, hes the first guy ive dated with a kid and im only 23 and i guess just dont feel ready? He didnt even tell her i live here which in a way upset me, not enough to make a big deal out of it but im hoping she realizes by now that i do live here. So just 2 weekends ago he had gotten her and she didnt bother me at all, i liked being around her and she wasnt being bratty or anything (shes 5) but the one thing that did bother me was that she was always going through my stuff and asking if she could have everything. It was very annoying to me but i was just telling myself its just that age but yet i dont want to give her all my stuff. So i gave her some nail polish and cute nail files from bath and body works with the designs and stuff on them.

Leading up to the MAIN point, she was here this weekend and last night when i got off work i went to target and walmart and got her a bunch of stuff just little things like coloring books and a bunch of hannah montana stuff and just cute little notebooks and pens and lipglosses and stuff, mainly just trying to be nice not trying to be like "oh i have to buy her stuff so she likes me" which isnt the case, a lot of it was also so she wouldnt feel the need to ask for all my stuff since i bought her a lot of the things she always asks for but just ones for kids. I was really excited about it because i had a target bag overflowing with stuff for her and when i got home and gave it to her she really wasnt looking at it she was kinda just throwing it around and when she was done she says to me "IS THAT ALL YOU GOT ME???"with this extremely snobby attitude, i mean i was in shock and my boyfriend really didnt say much to her he just told her not to be rude and i got her a ton of stuff. About 5 mins later he comes to me and he says he cant believe she was acting like that and its becasue her mom raised her to be a brat and i tell him "yea i went out of my way to get her stuff, i really didnt have to and her acting like makes me not want to buy her stuff everr again."

The next morning he said something to her and had her apologize which was fine with me because i could tell she really did like the stuff i got her. Heres the killer, about 20 mins after she apologizes she goes in the bathroom and grabs another one of nail files and asks if she could have it, which my first thought was why are you asking for my stuff still?? i just gave you a ton of stuff last night?? So i asked her what happened to the other one and she said it broke. I just had a gut feeling that she was lying because those things dont break filing nails esp a kids nails, so i pull my boyfriend into the bathroom and tell him all that and i told him she said it broke but i had a feeling his ex broke it. He goes to her and asks her why she was still asking for my stuff and asked her what happened with the other one and i was in the other room and i heard her saying "mommy took it from me when i told her she gave it to me, she yelled at me and said i cant have it and broke it in front of me and threw away everrything else she gave me" I was beyond shocked to be honest, i mean i couldnt get over the fact that she would do that in the first place, but then in front of her kid?? Im thinking its fine if you dont like me but dont let your kid know that, i never badmouth her at all in front of the child. Well after she said that she also told him that her mom tells her to be mean to me and not to like me and when she told her she liked me her mom smacked her in the face.

Its really to the point where my boyfriend and i are clueless on what to do. I really need some advice and if you dont leave any at least props for reading the novel i just wrote, but advice would be very helpful!!!!!