mom2many

It matters because it is important to you, no matter how many times you say "well it's not like he has been there for me" that doesn't change one simple fact, who is my dad? What are my other sibling like? And so on.

I am also sure that you are questioning your mom's role in why he has never been a part of your life. There is always two sides to a story, and somewhere in the middle is usually the truth.

Call him, with no expectations, go in knowing that this is may not work out, he may not want to be a part of your life or your babies (which by the way she is adorable!) and also understand that the first conversation is going to be uncomfortable, for both of you. So the first round you may not get what you need out of it, but if he is receptive and more conversations can follow then let them happen. Maybe by the time he got his "stuff" togather he felt it was to late to be in your life and didn't want to disturb your home.

The only way to get these answers is to make the call, a little background on me, my dad left when I was 7-8, and never looked back, he has another DD that he has raised on his own, I am involved with his family but he still has nothing to do with me, they say he reasons are "he hurt me and is afraid of how angry I am with him" The thing is I am not angry with him, my mom worked very hard when I was young to never say one bad word about him, any bad feeling I have are mine and mine alone, but even knowing all that I still would like a relationship, a good point is during a newspaper interview about something he was working on he acknowledged my kids as his grandkids, but I still don't hold my breath.

You won't know until you try.

Good luck!

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Jennifer, mom to some wonderful kids!