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Originally Posted by kalygulah  thats not my place to call them. |
I don't know if I'd call about one report of a slap from a 5-y-o/ I would document, yes. Document everything. EVERYTHING. and if there seems to be pattern or freqency of such reports, then yes, better to get it checked out. Kids tell stories to get attention, especially in stressful situations. but if you do beleive there is a real problem and think it's not your place, that's where you are wrong. It is your place. It is all of our places to report child abuse. Though I don't know that CPS would care much about one slap on the face.
that said, it sounds like mom may have some problems, but I am wondering how much of what your BF is telling you is true and how much is BS? Mr wonderful likes to sign the song and dance about how he's so denied even when he used to not show up. I heard the story about his ex-wife, until I started to see the holes in his story - like the excuses when I'd suggest he pick them up for ice cream every weds. Some men just want to spew the "I'm such a victim story" even when it's complete BS. Pretending the want to be a real father is much easier than actually being a real father. His latest even whined to our parenting coordinator saying that when I contact him, it's an attempt to get him back. Either he doesn't tell he what the messages are (event at Ry's school at 2 pm, Ry stuffed bead up nose - at docs, etc) or she is so insecure in their relationship that any exchange of info is a threat to her....
As far as the gifts, it's not uncommon for a child to be confrontational with teh other woman. It can take time to grow