Xero

mom2many, I hardly know you and I am seriously fond of you. You remind me of my mom (the one that adopted me, but to me she is my real mom). She has five other kids younger than me, and four of us are girls. Everybody bathed with her as little kids, and all us girls will demand entrance to the bathroom while she's in there doing ANYTHING. Getting ready to shower, showering, getting out of the shower, wiping her butt, we don't care. We don't think twice about it. It's the best time to have a conversation with her. We have her trapped in one small place where she can't be on the phone lol. And the boys aren't allowed in! HA! I think if me or my sisters still wanted in the shower with mom she probably would give us the funkiest look, but wouldn't deny us. Who cares! She always told it to us like this "It's not like you have anything I haven't seen before." She sometimes gets mad about never getting to go to the bathroom by herself. But she's accepted her fate lol. I must tell you, being raised to be unafraid of your family seeing your privates, or you seeing theirs, makes you more of a confident person, and even can make you closer to your family.

I don't think there should be a problem with it. I have always bathed with Eli pretty often (He's only 10 months though), and I figure I'll let it go on to whatever age. I'll know when a good time to stop is. If I have daughters, the age wont matter to me. I don't care how long Eli showers with his dad though. I don't see why it should matter if you both have the same stuff anyway.

On this note, my boyfriends little brother took showers with their mom until he was about 14 years old. And he only stopped because his step dad said something about it. There was never an actual problem, and he's a completely normal kid. There is so nothing wrong with him, and his mom and him are really close to each other in all the right ways. He still sleeps with her in her bed every chance he gets. I think that's sweet. I would love it if Eli wanted to spend that much time with me still at that age, seriously. But people make such a big deal out of it. What's it matter? They're private parts, everybody's got them.

And yeah, in Japan, family members bathe together up to pretty much any age, gender not being an issue. It's just because they're close, and it doesn't matter. Why can't America be like that?

Probably cause there's all kinds of sickos in America. Ugh.

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