You know, I really don't understand this. I definitely think without a doubt that this problem must lie in the relationship between them. I can easily think and tell myself that people I don't know or don't like are ugly, but the people I love are just always beautiful in my eyes, honest. I think it doesn't matter what your child looks like, they still look pretty/handsome/cute to you. I see babies sometimes and I think OMG that's the ugliest baby I've ever seen lol but then you see their moms all over them like they're the best thing there ever was, and you know they think their baby is the cutest.
I think what proves it to me that beauty is more in love than in looks is that I remember how I felt about Eli when he was first born and the first few months (the same way I do now) that he was the cutest, most gorgeous and beautiful perfect baby I'd ever seen. But the funny thing about it now is, that when I look back on his baby pictures, he was pretty much an ugly little alien right at first. LOL. NOW he's cute. (I think?!?!?!?!!) Really, especially right after he was born because he had baby rash, jaundice, and funny hair, so he looked like a sickly little mexican old man baby that got beat up. (no offense to any mexicans or old men out there).
I can't imagine ever being able to think that Eli is ugly, even if he was ugly and people told me, I wouldn't be able to figure out what they were talking about.
I wont say it's impossible for a mother to notice things that could be improved about her kids. I might notice if Eli (when he gets older) was overweight, acne-prone, or buck-toothed or something, but the difference there is that it wouldn't MATTER to me. If anything, I might try to help him fix whatever I could. Just because I know he would feel better about himself. I wouldn't be sad if he was ugly or fat, but I would know those things EXISTED. That's about the extent of it.
I was ALWAYS raised to know that it's what's on the INSIDE that counts.
No hard feelings though, I just wanted to share how I would feel. Really I think you just need to fall in love with your son all over again, like I'm sure you did after he was born. Just cause he's getting older and less cuddly doesn't mean you can't still love the crap out of him. Try to relate with him, build a relationship, bond. He'll get prettier every day.
