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well the way I see it is a child after a certain age should not be in time out in the first place. Time outs are for younger kids. Groundings (similar to timeouts but are held differnetly).
For example a 3 year old who throws their dinner roll gets a time out for 3 minutes. They recommend 1 min. per year of age. Now you wouldn't give a time out to a 12 year old for throwing his roll. Sit him in a corner for 12 minutes. No, that would be almost as sill as him throwing the roll at 12. an older child would need to be punished in a different way, such as well since you did that now you have to sweep and mop the kitchen floor becuase you made the floor messy, or now you can't go to Jim's house like you planned. You are not going to stick a 12 year old in the corner for 12 minutes.
As children get older they learn in a different way they understand in a differnt way. Plus you would be starting these things from birth, so your child will know what to do and what not to do and what he can get away with.
I put my one year old in time outs, usually 2 times a day or so, soemtimes more sometimes less. If she kicks me when I cam changing her diaper, I tell her, do not kick mommy, if you do it again you will have a time out. If she doe sit again I put her on the time corner (she sits on a thingy) then I leave her to be. Sometimes she cries and says "Sowwy" sorry) other times she throws a tantrum in the corner taht gets ignored, and sometimes she just sits there. I usually only have her sit there for less tehn a minute as she is only 20 months old. Then I let her come down, I say we don't kick people ( or whatever the problem was) then I tell her to say sorry, say I love you and the problem is gone.
I doubt this will work when she is 12. lol
Swearing, will be taught from a young age, just like in my house, its not done by children. Adults are also discouraged from it in my house. |