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Originally Posted by FooserX  We had a long talk before marraige that if I'm going to take over the dad role (he was 2 at the time), then I'm the dad and I get full rights to be the dad. |
Fooser, if you're not already in the process, make it legal. Adopt the boy and make him your son legally. That will end any further questions about it now and for the rest of his life.
Making it legal
does make a difference in the level of commitment from a parent. Are you in it for the long haul, or only for as long as your marriage lasts? Not suggesting it is\isn't, just asking how far are you willing to commit on part of this 4 year old. Kids are able to sense to what level a parent is commited, and if a parent is not 100% commited, they will sense it. Don't expect a kid to listen to you or respect you if you are not 100% commited to him as a parent, which is separate from the marriage commitment you have made to his mother as your wife.
Just giving you my advice, not passing judgement about what you have or haven't done.