FooserX

Wow.

Every parent has their own style...and I know you're intelligent, but sorry...this just seems like such a bad decision to me.

It sounds like you're treating your girl like an adult, or a young adult.....when in fact she's 11. 11! She's still a kid...a kid who found it in herself to sneak around and have sex with a boy for quite a while before anyone in the family found out. In fact, if you had not of walked in on them...they probably would still be doing it.

You gave her 3 conditions, which I don't see addressing any of the problems that might arise.

1 - She can only go for an hour. Well a lot can happen in an hour. I don't mean she's going to run off and do something...but an hour is a long time for kids to do nothing together. That's a long time to meet and talk to new boys and girls...a long time to get into mischeif.

2 - She has to go with a girl friend. Wow...what does that help prevent?

3 - She has to carry a cell phone. Unless there's an emergency, why would she need it?

I don't think anyone is worried that she's going to be a victim in some brutal crime...or leave the park to have sex. It's about mixing with the wrong crowd...being too available to boys. You've made it a point to say how flirtacious she is and boys like her....and now you're allowing her to mix right in with that crowd.

I wouldn't let my kid do this at 16...much less 11.

You never answered my question....is your daughter in any extra curricular activities? Sports? Music? Clubs? Anything??