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Originally Posted by markblair  fallon, why was it wrong for your husband to tell your daughter she couldn't use the computer? I'm of the thinking that if the child does something wrong, rewarding them with other fun privileges really doesn't make sense. Of course this doesn't mean they have to sit in one spot all night. But reading books, coloring, or doing other constructive activities are far better than using a computer. If my daughter was told she couldn't go outside but she could use the computer, she would see that as a bonus. If she was being punished, I can't turn around and reward her with computer time (which in our house is a privilege).
I'm just curious why that was wrong?  |
kaytee answered this pretty well but I thought I would add a bit. At 4 yrs old, staying inside while her friends were all out playing was enough to bring the issue home for her. Computer time is also a privilege in our house but I personally believe at her age taking away one privilege at a time is enough. There really is no sense in continuing to add punishment once one as been handed down. No if she was older or the problem was ongoing then there would need to be harsher punishment. Also she does plenty of constructive activities as well but I have to say she learns a lot more for the games she plays on the computer than she does from a coloring book