fallon

with my dd I make a great big colorful chart...most recently it was whining so I'll just tell you how we worked that...So I made a chart and put it up on the door. I clearly explained the "terms" to her and wrote them out on the chart. each time the "rules" were broken I put a large red check on the chart next to the day...3 checks= 4 min timeout, 4 checks= 7 min timeout (yes I know the 1 min per year rule), 5= lost outside play, 6= lost TV time, 7= early bedtime and every wk the # of checks for that lead up to a punishment went down. If she made it though the day w/o punishment she received a sticker at the end of the day, if she got x amount of stickers there was a reward. I know it may sound really complicated but once we figured out what worked for us it really helped. My dd is the kind of child that needs to see things spelled out right in front of her and benefits greatly from charts. I use them for a lot of things with her and seriously within a wk of the last chart she was getting her stickers every night and shortly after that the issue was gone. basically I change the terms and rules of the chart to fit whatever our needs are at the time. We also have a responsibility chart that lists her "chores" for the day and each task that is completed is rewarded with a sticker. She feels a great sense of accomplishment by seeing what she has done and having others see it. If you want to bounce ideas back and forth about it feel free to PM me and I'll do whatever I can to help you find a way that might help your family

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