Fatheredfive

Jtee, I'm coming late to this party and confess to not having read the entire thread. Sorry if what I'll say here is repetitive of what's already been said.

It's so coincidental that I found this forum after having just read Meg Meeker's book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. She is unequivocal: teens (much less preteens) are too young to be sexually active, both medically and psychologically. On the medical front, immature cervical tissue is much more susceptible to STDs, including HPV which causes cervical cancer. On the psychological front, Meeker calls depression an STD because it is so prevalent in her sexually active teen patients.

Please read the book. It convinced me that I was wrong to leave the sex talk with my Daughter (15) to my wife. Why? Because (Meeker argues) you are the first and most important man in her life. She needs to hear it from YOU that sex is wonderful when [insert your values statement here], but that she has to wait until it won't harm her.

If you let this go, and your daughter unconsciously sees that walk-in as what ruined her relationship with daddy, she'll have an unhealthy attitude toward sex for the rest of her life.

Bravo for your calm and concern. I'll go back and read more of the thread now and may discover I owe you an apology. Please read the book, though. She not only motivates fathers to speak up, but tells them HOW to do it and what to say.

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