TAR

I know it will be hard to stay out of things but you do want to keep your relationship with your daughter, right? what I get is that you don't like the way her boyfriend treats her, and you hear about things that are going on outside their relationship, also you know that your son and your daughters boyfriend don't get along. First off my mother never liked ANY of my boyfriends (not even my childrens father the man I'm with today - he had to grow on her..lol - she loves him now), but she didn't get into the whole he could be doing this thing and he is doing this, relationships are hard when your a teen and if my mother said anything about any of my boyfriends when I was 17 I wouldn't listen and i would be pissed because at that time I would feel like she don't understand (but as grown women we were there once and do understand, but our daughters don't know what experiences we had as teens). You said you 've allowed him to stay there thinking you could monitor the situation - That is not a good idea (my opinion) but letting him stay doesn't help, If you don't care for the way he treats her expecially... You wont be able to monitor every situation, nor will you see eveything that goes on in a relationship even though they are in your house. As you said you told your son not to interfear with the relationship because it was her choice and you shouldn't interfear either (unless you suspect that he is abusing her -hitting, emotionaly.. ect, that is the time I would step in). If yo do interfear with her choice all you will do is make her mad at you.

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In memory of Cherish 12/19/1998