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I have a question for you all and I know that you are not all doctors, but here goes: After my daughter was born it was brought to my attention that maybe I was suffering from some depression issues. At the time, I went to the doctor who put me on an anti-depressant (Wellbutrin). I was on it for about 2 months, when our insurance changed and I was in a 3 month holding period of no insurance so I quit taking them. I really didn't think that they worked anyway. About a month ago I went to our new doctor and they put me on a different anti-depressant (Lexapro). I have been on it almost a month now and I still don't feel any different. When I was at the doctor she asked me if maybe it was anxiety as opposed to depression. I go back on Thurs. for a check up and I am wondering if maybe it is not anxiety.

Here is how I am feeling, whenever the baby cries I have to calm it down as soon as possible, I already posted under frustrated mommy with the issues I am having with my husband and my daughter and even though it is getting better, I do get very tense when she cries (even with me). I am just wondering if maybe it is not post-partum depression? My husband is always asking what is wrong-even when I am not in a bad mood. His friends have called and left messages saying that they can no longer stand to be around me because of my always down in the dumps attitude. In reality I am just a shy, quiet person and if I am a little honest I don't like these friends all that much anyway, so it doesn't hurt my feelings that they don't want to be around me. What do you all think-depressed or anxiety? I am also a chronic worrier, but I thought that was just a woman thing anyway. Have any of you been through this and what did you do? Thanks for your help!

fallon

sounds a bit like PPD hun...I went through everything you said above with my DD. Talk to your dr and I'll poke around a bit today for some diet changes and other natural things you can try.

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Lissa

You need to see a doctor. Sounds like you have PPD. If you leave it untreated, it will get much worse. Trust me.

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FionnaK

There are other antidepressants to try. They don't
all work exactly the same way. A month isn't quite long enough to totally ditch the one you are on now, but I think if you feel absolutely no different you should probably try another one.

In terms of the anxious feeling when the baby cries, I had that all the time. And my first son had colic. For me, I think that was a new mom thing. I wasn't quite so spastic with my second.

I have been depressed before. I felt numb, and like I was in a black hole. I didn't feel happy or sad. That might sound kind of good, but it really was horrible. I got no enjoyment out of anything and I had no motivation. If that is how you are feeling then perhaps you are depressed.

And it is totally possible to have anxiety and depression. Having a baby can bring those feelings out anyway. Babies are hard. At least for me they were. I am having a way better time as my kids are getting a little older.

button611

Thanks Fiona-I am feeling like there is no way to be happy, mu husband says I am totally emotionless and there is no way to tell if I am happy or sad. I guess I do feel kind of numb and just don't seem to care kind of attitude. I am glad to hear that this is a more common thing than I thought. I am anxious to go to the doctor on Thurs and see what she has to say and maybe there is hope yet of finding the right drug or doseage for me. I love my daughter soo much, but if this is how I am going to feel after another baby then I am not so sure that another one is in our future. I am glad to hear though that it does get better as they get older.!!! YEAH!!!!!

Lissa

I know the feeling.

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evilbrent

"You need to see a doctor" is about 1/4 of the solution.

You also need to come to terms with the source of your anxiety - and no amount of medication, by itself, is going to fix that problem.

Don't forget things like: seek mentoring assistance from other mothers, seek out exercise, seek assistance and understanding from your partner...

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musicmom

I was this way with my son and though I loved him so much I knew I wanted a sibling for him. Then once I was pg with the girls I felt this overwhelming feeling of "omg what did I do" and I cried because I felt like I was going to take love away from him.
That's just not how it worked. My brain was not working right. Chemical mess up. When my twins did come I had massive amounts of love for all of them. More everyday in fact.
You are perfectly normal and it all does pass, you have to give it time. PPD can last up to a year or longer. RARE but with the proper meds and possibly someone to talk to you will be ok. It took me two months to get out of the fog.
You have recieved great advice from other posters, they really do care. Keep coming back here.