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yulia · 02-27-2008, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by WHYTEKNYGHT2003

oy. yulia if you really wanted advice then you need to grow up and not be so childish. several of us dished out what was in my opinion some very good advice on the situation. and you decided to pretty much ignore it in pursuit of an argument. well I take offense to THAT. we took time out of our day to try and help you out with your situation, and i dont believe that it is fair to us that you basically ignored it in pursuit of an argument. so somebody made a mildly offensive comment. o well. everyone does it. if this is about political correctness, then that can go out the window, there is no such thing nor will there ever be. if you have such a problem with people on this forum, why are you still here to complain about it? i dont think you really wanted advice, i think you just wanted to start something. if this offends you, too bad. im not going to apologize

WHYTEKNYGHT, you really aren't right in your judgment. I did need advice, perhaps happy stories, everything that is relevant to my situation. That is why I have posted.

I do appreciate you taking your time and responding and I thanked you guys for this almost right away after you answered (if you look at page 1, you’ll see it). I didn’t obviously thanked Lissa and Fosser for their inappropriate comments, but you, musicmom and fallon.

What you guys said, made me think a lot, and therefore, I consider it very helpful.

I was honestly planning on ignoring the disgusting Lissa’s and Fooser’s comments, but jtee admiring them was the last drop. It does hurt a lot when you share with people something very intimate like that and all they can do is to make a garbage out of it and laugh at your face. It would never cross my mind—not even for a second—to do something like that to a very personal thread of another member, even if this member was super irritating to me. Therefore, I was very much shocked when someone did that to me. It is something nearly unthinkable for me.

Anyway, sorry if you felt your advice wasn’t appreciated. It was.
yulia.

WHYTEKNYGHT2003 · 02-27-2008, 02:49 PM

ok. well the thing is they werent making garbage at your situation, yulia. they were having fun on a diffrent tangent. off topic, maybe, yes. but still. the nice thing about conversations on a forum is that when something is said that you dont like, its alot easier to let it go, then when in an actual discussion. theres been thigns said on here that i didnt like, i just passed it by. i hope you understand what im trying to say here. the offense towards you was not intentional, therefor the argument wasnt needed. the post was deleted from the thread, that should have just been the end of it. lets just drop it all here and continue on with the original topic of this thread, which i thought was a good topic to discuss to begin with untill all that stuff broke loose

Lissa · 02-27-2008, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by yulia

the comment you've made, Lissa, had nothing to do with just calling someone an immigrant. Think once more about what you said and you'll see it...

Here is what I said to Fooser. This is the only comment I made on this thread.

Originally Posted by Lissa

Maybe you and Yulia should hook up. Don't you have a thing for immigrants?

If you find this offensive, whatever. I find about 98% of your posts on this forum offensive.

yulia · 02-27-2008, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by WHYTEKNYGHT2003

lets just drop it all here and continue on with the original topic of this thread, which i thought was a good topic to discuss to begin with untill all that stuff broke loose

I 100% for it!

Fallon, if you could please clean this thread up a bit from all the unrelated stuff, I'd really appreciate it.

yulia · 06-10-2008, 01:23 PM

Well, since I have some good news, I thought I should update. There was a point that I took my ring off (for a week) and officially stated that I was not married in my heart any more and that I wanted a divorce. It sort of really made up both to wake up, talk (a lot), look at things differently. Without even trying hard, our attitude did change a lot and we almost don’t argue any more. It’s not about “trying” not to argue and hold back, but rather the whole attitude shifted so much that we don’t *have to* argue any more to get to an agreement. Our relationship got so much better in any way after that event. I once again remember why I fall in love with this incredible person.

To make things even more interesting, Daniel (my husband) shared with me that his parents used to argue like crazy for about first 25 years of their marriage. But there was a point when his dad got seriously sick, lost a lot of weight. It shifted their relationship so much that they barely argued after that (and that was 20 years ago). Who knows, maybe it runs in the family LOL!

Sirk · 06-10-2008, 01:30 PM

There is a crazy amount of deleted posts in this thread.

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