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musicmom · 03-10-2008, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Ari2

As I read this, my jaw dropped open. How horrible for you and your kids, especially your daughter. There is no excuse, but is your mom truly mentally ill (this is not a question that needs a reply, of course)? What she did and said is so far from acceptable behavior towards kids - regardless of your daughter's behavior - that it just seems sick.

You are smart to keep your kids away. I have a sibling with mental illness (go ahead and pick one - I bet she's been diagnosed with it), and we don't allow her a lot of contact with our kids. It's painful at times (and she's painful almost always), but you can't expose your kids to full-blown nutty when it has such a hurtful edge. And it is so hard to explain to kids. My sister behaved horribly to my nieces when they were younger. They now are old enough to understand intellectually that they aunt is ill, but they still remember and are hurt by it.

Gah, how awful. I'm glad you were there to protect your kids.

She's never been to a Dr to be diagnosed but I honestly think she has border line personality disorder because no meds help her. She doesn't laugh and everything in her life is negative. Nothing makes her happy. Thanks for your input I really needed it to keep strong. This time I have to lay down the law with her. Enough is enough. That's MY daughter.
Thanks you guys really mean alot. mwah (big wet kisses)

Ari2 · 03-10-2008, 08:36 PM

Np, MM.

The most consistent diagnosis my sister has received is borderline personality disorder. Like your mom, everything in her life is negative. She also either loves you irrationally and spends more than she has for weird gifts you don't want (the love part is very rare) or hates your guts, sometimes both in the span of 10 minutes. She's always on meds or changing meds, but she never really improves. She has a really attractive habit of telling gigantic lies (she told my mom I had an abortion, she told my brother's wife that he sexually assaulted a kid) and then insisting that people misunderstood. Maybe we can get them together next Christmas for a secret insanity santa exchange.

Lay down the law, Sha'. I have no doubt you can do it.

aliinnc · 03-11-2008, 03:15 AM

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I cannot even imagine how upsetting that would be. I think there are some people who should never have kids.

We have a few in my family too. I would explain to your daughter that some people's parents are not nice to them when they are kids. So they never learn how to be a good parent when they grow up. That is what happened to your mother. This might help her understand that the problem is her grandmother and not her.

Good luck.

AnKsMommy · 03-11-2008, 04:55 AM

I'm sorry that your kids had to hear those horrible things that your mother said! I think any kid will be all wired up after playing for that long and with that many kids. It's part of being a kid!

I'm glad that you're not taking them back there. Who knows what would have happened if you would have been away a little longer.

I'll be praying for your mother and your family. Praying that she'll realize she can't treat her grandchildren that way! And for you for having to deal with her.

musicmom · 03-11-2008, 05:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Ari2

Np, MM.

The most consistent diagnosis my sister has received is borderline personality disorder. Like your mom, everything in her life is negative. She also either loves you irrationally and spends more than she has for weird gifts you don't want (the love part is very rare) or hates your guts, sometimes both in the span of 10 minutes. She's always on meds or changing meds, but she never really improves. She has a really attractive habit of telling gigantic lies (she told my mom I had an abortion, she told my brother's wife that he sexually assaulted a kid) and then insisting that people misunderstood. Maybe we can get them together next Christmas for a secret insanity santa exchange.

Lay down the law, Sha'. I have no doubt you can do it.

I needed that laugh. We so should. My mom would buy her something stupid from the goodwill and say it was new but leave the old "new" price tag on it just so you could see how much she spent but actually didn't! Sounds just like her!

Thanks to the others. It is horrible. Don't bother praying for my mom, I really think she is hell bound no matter what happens unless God has a place for the friggen insane up there. In that case, I don't want to go.

Amber · 03-11-2008, 05:35 AM

I think I might have had to punch her in the eye. No seriously.

I'm sorry she had to go through that. I think it's terrible your mother thought she could just spout off like that in front of your daughter and raise the flyswatter like she was going to hit.

musicmom · 03-11-2008, 07:21 AM

Back in the day I did physically attack my mother because I had enough of her abuse and I grabbed her up against the microwave and yelled "you are a horrible person and when you die no one is going to your funeral because no one likes you, don't you see that" (I don't know what I was thinking it sounded good at the time) and she never laid a hand on me again.
I assumed she loved her grandchildren and she would never treat them like she did us. I guess I was way wrong. Lesson learned.
I wouldn't hit my mother because I would seriously hurt her. I just covered their ears and talked really loud till I got out to the car. She'll pay in the end anyway because that's the last time she'll ever see them. It's done.

Good Wolf · 03-11-2008, 10:14 AM

So if your kids were cussing and calling ol' gram gram names they would have had a bonding experience?

She sounds like a scary woman. I say you go to your local recruiting office and put some of that rage to a good use.

FooserX · 03-11-2008, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Good Wolf

So if your kids were cussing and calling ol' gram gram names they would have had a bonding experience?

She sounds like a scary woman. I say you go to your local recruiting office and put some of that rage to a good use.

Where'd you get a pic of Lissa? I thought she wasn't posting them anymore?

meow_173 · 03-11-2008, 11:46 AM

I seriously would have punched her so fast i wouldn't have cared who saw.

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