musicmom

Yesturday I took my children to a three hour party. There were 40ish kids and 60 adults at this place that had tons of bounce houses, obsticle courses, etc you get the point so my kids NEVER took a break. I escaped out of there a tad early and missed pizza and cake because my EVIL mother said she had made a pork roast and we were starving and I would go buy a birthday cake to just eat for no reason.
Here's the BIG mistake. I left my stubborn twin and my son alone with my mom while I went up to the store to buy the items. I was gone ten minutes. I walk in the door and my mother flipped and said "how in the h*** does anyone watch these kids, they are fkn brats, I'm surprised the cops weren't called. Your daughter is a fkn maniac and should be put on medication" and kept on and on and on and I held my daughter and put my hands over her ears.
I tried to explain to my mother that she gets over stimulated and when it's time to calm down she sometimes has melt downs and she just needs to sit still and calm down.
But instead she swore at her and raised a fly swater at my daughter which scared the S*** out of her and made her shake and run out the back door yelling for me. She was terrified.
I told my mother she was insane and that there would never be a visit again and she said fine meanwhile cussing at my little children (my mother was abusive to me)
I tried explaining how my daughter is but she didn't want to hear it and said it was BS. My oldest daughter just can not play that long and process normal things after she's played that hard. She has a glazed look in her eyes. I just held her, made her safe and told her we would not go back. She knows her behavior was unacceptable and she had to try harder to control it. But OH BOY. I was a wreck and I don't EVER want to talk to that witch again. How dare she go to hit MY child.
Thanks for letting me vent.

HappyMomma

Wow! I am so sorry you had to go through that. I would be furious!

jrrsmom

That completely sucks! Sometimes Grandmas aren't all silver haired, cookie baking, sweet smelling, spoilers that they should be.

I would have hit her with the fly swatter to make myself feel better on the way out.

fallon

I am so sorry...I would have been mad also

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musicmom

I would have hit her with the flyswatter but she would have called the cops for abuse on the elderly. I thought about that. Plus I didn't want to freak my kids out. She was saying some pretty racy things.
Thanks for hearing me. I've been upset all day. I never thought I would hate my mother like this. And I have quilt for leaving my daughter with a verbal abuser. She did that to me, why would I think they would have been different?

jrrsmom

If anything your kids will grow from the experience and know not to do that to people. They will remember how horrid she is and maybe think twice before flying off the handle.

musicmom

gawd I hope so, we talked about that. I asked if I ever act like that and they said "definitly not, you are a great mom and would never do that"
I felt so guilty I pulled my daughter out of her bed and put her in my bed just to have her near me
Damn guilt

evilbrent

your mum clearly doesn't respect kids.

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Ari2

As I read this, my jaw dropped open. How horrible for you and your kids, especially your daughter. There is no excuse, but is your mom truly mentally ill (this is not a question that needs a reply, of course)? What she did and said is so far from acceptable behavior towards kids - regardless of your daughter's behavior - that it just seems sick.

You are smart to keep your kids away. I have a sibling with mental illness (go ahead and pick one - I bet she's been diagnosed with it), and we don't allow her a lot of contact with our kids. It's painful at times (and she's painful almost always), but you can't expose your kids to full-blown nutty when it has such a hurtful edge. And it is so hard to explain to kids. My sister behaved horribly to my nieces when they were younger. They now are old enough to understand intellectually that they aunt is ill, but they still remember and are hurt by it.

Gah, how awful. I'm glad you were there to protect your kids.

musicmom

NO, she never has. Me and my sister and my twin brother hold lots of resentment towards her. She doesn't care and denies it.
Sad part is she is also a substitute teacher. I feel so sorry for those kids. I wish she weren't around kids ever.