Xero

Well, it's not a huge deal but I've been so frustrated lately and I'm wondering if anyone else has felt like this and how you handle it.

So Eli's got a cold again. AGAIN. It's like he's ALWAYS sick!! It's just a cold, but those of you with little ones or those that have had little ones I'm sure know that a cold to a baby or even a little kid is totally different than a cold to an adult and I think people are so inconsiderate about that. They cry, they're miserable, they wont go to sleep at night, they wake up, some kids don't eat right (mine), you can't even really give them medicine for the most part, everything is just harder on them (and their parents).

My problem is that the last several times Eli has gotten sick, it was because someone was hanging out with him that didn't tell me they were sick and just didn't care. I HATE THAT. I mean I could just cuss someone out for doing that, you know? I mean my mom has five other kids than me, some still little, and if I even think I have a cold when she invites me over I tell her first and I completely respect it if she suggests we hang out a different time. Even people that don't have kids, I tell them. It's only right! Why would hang around someone without telling them at least that you're sick first? Some people can't afford to get sick for whatever reason. But back to getting babies and kids sick.

People are continually asking to see Eli or just coming over for a visit or whatever, and either they are sick and kissing all over him like it doesn't matter, or they bring over their sick little ones to play with Eli. And bam! Not barely any time after that is Eli sick. I HATE IT. It's like he's always sick unless I don't see anybody. Why can't people tell me they're sick and protect my baby from getting it? Why doesn't it matter to them? I would feel awful for getting a baby sick. Awful. I've been getting really mean to people lately because of it, cause it's just never ending.

Why are people so inconsiderate? Do you guys hate that too? Have you gone through anything similar? What do you do about that? How do you deal with it? I'm having a hard time dealing with people's thoughtlessnes (sp??). It's so annoying and I can't stand seeing my baby sick all the time.

So thanks for listening to me rant. I had to rant.

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Xero

Am I being a spaz? Like over reacting? Is this just part of life or something? Blarg. @__o

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fallon

No, I agree...I cannot stand when people bring their illness in my house like it's no big deal. I was a totally witch about with Debralyn too cause she was born with a blood disorder that weaken her immune system quite a bit. Now I make it pretty clear that you're not welcome around my children if your not feeling well. I don't really care if people think it's rude, I'm the one that has to deal with the sick children

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Dadu2004

Having a sick kid is such a pain in the butt...you want to do the best you can for them and make them all better, but you just can't. It's hearbreaking.

On a different and possibly lighter note, it can actually be a good thing when a kid gets sick. Now listen before you call me a moron....children have very little in their immune systems. The more sick they get, the stronger their immune systems become, thus getting them less sick as they get older....at least that's what my doc says.

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Xero

Exactly, you just wish you could make THEM take care of the sick baby you know? Let them see what they did. (but of course I would never want anyone but me to be there for my sick little boo lol). I've been slowly turning into kind of a witch with people, like I'll straight up ask people if they're sick because I'm getting used to the fact that they wont TELL me, and if they say no I'll say "ok because I don't want you around Eli if you even think you're sick."

The last two times before this were both because my neighbor had her little 2 year old girl at my house and she had a runny nose and I asked if she was sick and she said "no I think she's just teething, not sick". And of course within the next day or two Eli's mysteriously sick. I guess I should be meaner and say "She looks sick, go home" lol. But the fact is I hate how careless people are.

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Xero

Yeah, that's true Dadu. I just don't like to think of it that way I guess. I remember when we all got the stomach flu and we were over it in 2 or 3 days but Eli had it for almost 2 weeks and I freaked out on the doctor because I didn't understand why it wasn't gone yet and he explained it to me like this -

"Think about how much older you are than him, and how many times your immune system has had the chance to battle of the stomach flu over the years. This is only the first or second time his immune system has ever seen it, so it takes him much longer to fight it off and get rid of it. Where your immune system is used to it and experienced at it and can get rid of it in a couple days."

Not exact words, but basically the conversation to my memory. So yeah, I know, it just seems like overkill sometimes when Eli is sick SO OFTEN. You know? It's still so annoying that people don't care.

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Dadu2004

It is annoying, and it sucks big time. We battled with Delaney for months and months with ear infections until she had to get tubes put in. Before that she had Rhoda virus and was in the hospital for 3 days with an IV in her head.

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Xero

UUuhhhhggg that sounds so awful. I've seen that ear thing happen with kids and it's so hard. I feel bad for you. Eli had Rhoda virus (or however you spell that) twice when he was littler. SUCKED.

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Sirk

Lita had constant infections. Like 105 degree fevers and I had to drop out of college my last semester because she was ALWAYS sick.
They finally took her tonsils out and that fixed it. Even though most of the infections weren't in her throat. She had them out when she was 5 and I swear the number of times she's been sick since then I could count on my fingers.

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Xero

Wow that's crazy. It's funny you'd say that because my mom just found out something similar about my sister. Unfortunately Nikki is 17 years old and just NOW they figured out why she's been sick so bad and had constant fevers so many times in her life. I mean, I could go on for EVER telling you how many times she's been sick, in the hospital, missing school, and on and on. I always wondered why she was always sick and why her fevers got so bad. She's had tonsilitis several times too and my mom has tried again and again to get her tonsils taken out (but just for that reason) and recently the doctor told her she's got something called Marshall's Syndrome (aka periodic fevers something or another, don't mix it up with the genetic disorder). I don't know all the details but basically her tonsils are making her sick among other things and she's scheduled to get them out as soon as possible. I just think it's such an awful waste that they could have done that a long time ago and improved the quality of her life when she was much younger if they were only looking hard enough.

That's so weird though, isn't it?

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