sarah1971

My husband's exwifes grandfather (also son's great grandfather) just passed away. The ex told us she plans on taking their son to the wake/funeral herself which lasts about 4 hrs and we are fine with that. The problem is we don't know if we should attend or do something. My husbands exwife has caused alot of problems with us and we only deal with her when we have to regarding their shared son. Their son is also only 8 yrs old and would not appreciate his dad going as he himself hardly knew his great grandfather. Also my husband was not close to the grandfather. On the other hand it is his son's family. Under these circumstances what would be the proper thing to do?

Dadu2004

I would definately not attend the funeral for a couple of reasons. 1. That is not your husband's family anymore. As you said, it's his son's family...not his. 2. They weren't close anyway, so what would be the point of going? Instead, I would send a nice bouquet of flowers to the funeral home as an act of condolences.

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HappyMomma

I would say it depends on how close you were to the grandfather.

If you feel it would cause problems with you and the ex attending, perhaps send flowers.

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fallon

my mother's whole family came when my father died even though they had been divorced for like 10 yrs. They came to support me. That said, if it would upset the ex to have you guys there just send flowers to show your support for the family

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Kaytee

I would say that if my son was going, then I would be going with him. Regardless of how well I knew them or how close. Just to be there for my child.
I also see it as my child's family, is my family. At least in the cordial sense.

My brothers ex wife and father of his child, is still my SIL in the sense that if someone close to her passed then I would attend or send flowers if I could not. I would be there to support her children

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Teresa

If DH wasn't close to the deceased, and there isn't a good relationship between him and his ex, I think it would just create tension on an already difficult day to have him there. Send flowers, and stay in contact with son as much as possible during the coming days so that he knows he's being thought of and supported.

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