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FooserX · 05-12-2008, 10:02 AM

Good luck with everything Spanky. That situation is so awful :-(

Your husband is scum. What kinda 2 week relationship can be "serious?"

It's just a rebound...and your kid is stuck watching it go down.

musicmom · 05-12-2008, 10:05 AM

It may not be a bad thing.

FooserX · 05-12-2008, 10:07 AM

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Pot calling the kettle black Fooser. mwah

What are you talking about?

musicmom · 05-12-2008, 10:10 AM

I did the same thing so you can't really knock someone for falling that quick. I was head over heels in love with my ps husband the day I met him.

Cthru · 05-12-2008, 10:13 AM

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I really disagree with the advice so far.

I mean, yeah...what Spanky's husband does isn't her business anymore, but the child is 100% her business. Her daughter does NOT need to be seeing that Dad is having sleepovers so rediculously soon after their family broke up. It sets a horrific example that love is casual, and people can come and go in bed on a whim.

I'm at the end of my divorce, and my wife has introduced her boyfriend to my son on a lot of levels, and it pisses me off, but I had this belief when we were happy too. I really don't think it's healthy to bring in another bf/gf until the proper time (which is different for everyone, but 2 weeks? lol come on).

And yeah, I would seriously consider going to the school about this as well. Maybe I'm wrong, but I just think the mom here is totally justified in her feelings. The teacher should know better than this.

^^^Totally Agree!!

FooserX · 05-12-2008, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by musicmom

You got serious with your soon to be ex wife pretty quick. I did the same thing so you can't really knock someone for falling that quick. I was head over heels in love with my ps husband the day I met him.

Uh...I dated my soon to be ex for a year before we got married.

Yeah, that's fast, but it's not 2 weeks...and even if I did, why would you try to bring that up and throw it in my face?

musicmom · 05-12-2008, 10:23 AM

I'm not trying to throw it in your face but let the OP see that this may not be just a fling, this may be a good girl who will be decent to her child. We have all jumped the gun but it's not automatically a bad thing.
You know I love ya Fooser.

fallon · 05-12-2008, 10:35 AM

chances are she probably is a good women but it is to soon for her to be sleeping over while the child is there. You made the right choice by not going to the school because your daughter will probably handle letting everyone know what she saw. The teacher made a poor choice by staying the night. You may not be able to control the relationship she has with your ex and you should probably just stay out of that other then letting know it really isn't a great idea to bring other women around so soon. Maybe make a deal with him that you'll both keep other men or women away from her for at least 6 months??? it just isn't good for her. When I left my ex I promised myself I would never let another man around her until I was sure I was spending the rest of my life with him. I feel very good about the choice I made and I am marrying the only other man she's ever seen me with in 2 wks. There's no reason for you daughter to have to go through dating with you guys. Stay in good graces with your ex as much as possbile and if he can't make that deal with you I hope you will consider making it with yourself. Your daughter will thank you for it someday. I really hope everything works out for you and your little girl

fallon · 05-12-2008, 10:36 AM

try to stay on topic in this area please guys

spankys3304 · 05-12-2008, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by fallon

chances are she probably is a good women but it is to soon for her to be sleeping over while the child is there. You made the right choice by not going to the school because your daughter will probably handle letting everyone know what she saw. The teacher made a poor choice by staying the night. You may not be able to control the relationship she has with your ex and you should probably just stay out of that other then letting know it really isn't a great idea to bring other women around so soon. Maybe make a deal with him that you'll both keep other men or women away from her for at least 6 months??? it just isn't good for her. When I left my ex I promised myself I would never let another man around her until I was sure I was spending the rest of my life with him. I feel very good about the choice I made and I am marrying the only other man she's ever seen me with in 2 wks. There's no reason for you daughter to have to go through dating with you guys. Stay in good graces with your ex as much as possbile and if he can't make that deal with you I hope you will consider making it with yourself. Your daughter will thank you for it someday. I really hope everything works out for you and your little girl

I thought we had made that deal, soem time ago and I feel the exact same way about my daughter not meeting someone until I feel that I will spend the rest of my life with him.. I do feel like you know me those are my feelings..

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