spankys3304

Yesterday, I called my daughter at her fathers house and found out that her preschool teacher had come for a visit. When I questioned her father about this I found out that they were dating.

Please let me back track a bit. Our divorce has only been final for about 6 weeks. And up until one week ago we were still sleeping with one another. Doing things as a family. We had agreed when we seperated that we would not introduce someone to our daughter until we felt it was going somewhere. Now my ex says that things are getting serious with her and that is why he invited her over during his weekend.

Then last night they had a sleep over and she is still there today and will be sleeping over again tonight. My daughter today "Mother's Day" said to me that after we have our mothers day party she wants to go back to Daddy's and see Mrs. So-n-So because they were going to have another sleep over. I might add that this was said several times. She is only 3 1/2 years old.

Later on this afternoon she continued to say she wanted to go back and see her teacher, and that Mrs. So-n-So is her mommy.

Am I just being jealous or is out of line behaviour for the teacher (who by the way is only seperated form her husband)

musicmom

I think it's his business and it's better he's with a person who will be kind to your daughter. However I think you will stir the waters if you call and report her because it is a conflict of interest and she could lose her job. I don't think anyone is doing any harm. He's fair game now and your daughter likes her alot. I'd leave it be and wish them the best and carry one with your life.
You are her ONLY mother so don't worry there.

spankys3304

I met with her today, she is truely a nice person and has apologized and agrees that things went badly.

However, I do belive I am being objective here, she is not in any emotional shape to be in a relationship. I am worried about my daughters safety, because of the answers I received about her ex and why she was staying with my ex. All I know is that her ex is former military and is with the federal government, and she looked terrified when I asked about him.

.:Kalli Rae:.

I really don't think who he plays house with is any of your business as long as your daughter isn't there. It is confusing for kids when Mommy and Daddy were together last week and now Daddy has a new woman. If you guys were doing things as a family last week and this week has the teacher over when your daughter is there she is going to get really confused. He needs to let her get adjusted to you and him being over before he brings in another woman. JMHO.

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musicmom

FooserX

I really disagree with the advice so far.

I mean, yeah...what Spanky's husband does isn't her business anymore, but the child is 100% her business. Her daughter does NOT need to be seeing that Dad is having sleepovers so rediculously soon after their family broke up. It sets a horrific example that love is casual, and people can come and go in bed on a whim.

I'm at the end of my divorce, and my wife has introduced her boyfriend to my son on a lot of levels, and it pisses me off, but I had this belief when we were happy too. I really don't think it's healthy to bring in another bf/gf until the proper time (which is different for everyone, but 2 weeks? lol come on).

And yeah, I would seriously consider going to the school about this as well. Maybe I'm wrong, but I just think the mom here is totally justified in her feelings. The teacher should know better than this.

fallon

I agree with Foos here

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spankys3304

Thank you for all the support. I do agree what he does on his own time is his business, but when our daughter is there there needs to be some discression.

I have decided not to go to the school as I will only come off as a jealous ex-wife. But I know that my daughter will go to school tomorrow and tell everyone that will listen that she had a sleep over with mrs.--- and she slept in daddys bed, and I fully expect a call from the school.

musicmom

HappyMomma

Yep, don't ever do anything in front of your child that you don't mind the whole world hearing about. LOL

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