cptcalzone

I think I'm going nuts. Our 10 week old cries like a demon when he's hungry or needs a diaper change. When you remedy the problem, he stops. But other times he cries for no reason, and the sound of it makes me angry. I get mad after a a few minutes and need to leave the room to compose myself. Am I losing my mind? Is this a sign that I'm going to become an abusive parent? I don't know what to do but now afraid to watch him alone for any long period of time.

Skyburning

Babies don't cry for no reason. Is he gassy? Maybe his tummy is upset when he is crying for a reason you can't see. Or maybe he is tired and needs your help getting off to sleep. It is normal though and it does get better. It's better you walk away for a few minutes and recompose than get angry with him, that doesn't make you an abusive parent. But remember that at 10 weeks old the world is scary and new to your baby and he is going to turn to you for comfort a lot.

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Teresa

I agree with Sky...babies don't cry for no reason. Crying is their only method of communicating a problem. He needs SOMETHING...whether it be attention, or just the security of being held close.

I also agree that it's better to walk away and compose yourself. Doesn't mean that you'll become an abusive parent. Having the control to walk away probably means that you WON'T do that. Right now, you're probably tired, getting used to a new routine, and stressing a little....and that can also impact the baby and make HIM stressed. Try to relax, be calm, and just hang in there!!!

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fallon

it's hard in the beginning but I promise it doesn't go on forever. Like the others said the baby wants something...and you can make yourself crazy trying to figure out what it is if you do't approch the whole thing with a certain level of calm. A baby will become more upset and frusterated as you do so try to stay calm and just do your best

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Kaytee

what every one else says. Abususive parents would not walk away when they know they are losing it. Good parents walk away. At 10 weeks I would sugest that mom watch what she eats. Many foods can make a baby gassy. If he is fomrula fed make sure you are not switching brans and types of formula and make sure you are using a bottle that helps with air pockets. That can cause the baby to be more gassy. Also gas drops are wonderful!!

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.:Kalli Rae:.

After my daughter was born and I was alone with a 1 yr old and a newborn there were many, many times I had to walk away. I would get so stressed out with the crying (Lily), whining (Aaron) and general "kid stuff" that I stressed them out which made it worse. Always, always walk away if you need to. It is much better to seperate yourself from the situation than lose it. I have never shaken my babies but I do know what it feels like to get to that point. I had PPD very bad for a long time and had to force myself to get away. I would put my kids in their cribs, close their doors, go outside and close the door behind me so I could relax, just for a few minutes and it would be better. It's just taking a deep breath when you feel like your drowing.

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sadinplaid

I've very very recently been where you are, and when I can't figure out what's wrong with DD I put her in her crib or swing and step out on the backporch for some deep breaths.

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jtee

Head phones with along with your favorite MP3 player can help reduces the stress of a crying baby that won't stop.

Soon after I got a motorcycle a couple years ago I riding it down the freeway going about 60mph, and a loose hair was flying around in my helmet and it was tickling the hell out of me so badly that I wanted to scream. It helped understand that if a baby experiencing something like that, it could cause a baby scream/cry because babies can't do anything other than cry.

meow_173

Maybe the baby is caulicy (sp?)

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