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Lissa · 05-13-2008, 06:36 PM

This article makes me want to cry.

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It should be said from the very beginning that no one knows how many pedophiles exist in America since the overwhelming majority never fulfill their fantasies, nor do they come to the attention of law enforcement agents. They seem content to fantasize in the safety and comfort of their own homes. The most common type of pedophile personality is the immature model. These people have never been able to maintain a successful interpersonal relationship with others. At some point in their lives, they discover that sexual activities with pre-pubescent children can be achieved and they feel a sense of fulfillment they cannot obtain anywhere else. They are classified as loner deviants and usually will not associate with other deviants. Since they lack social contact with others, they spiral downward into deeper recesses of pedophilia and fantasies(5).

Pedophiles can be found at every social and economic level and can be established members of the community. Sadly, we have all read stories in local newspapers concerning members of clergy, respected businessmen and schoolteachers who were exposed as pedophiles or child molesters. In 1985, a Roman Catholic priest in Louisiana pleaded guilty to 33 charges of sexual abuse against 33 boys. He later admitted that he molested several dozen others. He was released in 1995 and later arrested again for the rape of a 12-year-old -girl. In one of America’s worst cases of clergy who molest parishioners, the Sante Fe diocese in New Mexico settled 165 sexual abuse cases in 1997. More than 20 priests were removed from their positions and civil settlements may exceed $50 million dollars. Incredibly, an archbishop involved in the case said he didn’t know that sexual abuse was a crime(6). But unlike this priest, the majority of pedophiles never cross that line into active child molestation. They mostly will remain quiet, keep to themselves and pursue their sexual interests at home.

Many of these offenders have extensive collections of child pornography or child erotica that feed their fantasy world. These photos and drawings will typically be cutouts from newspapers and magazines that other people would find inoffensive or even innocuous. Pedophiles will frequently videotape children from television shows and commercials. They will also attend sporting events in schools and surreptitiously tape these events. Undoubtedly, the notorious video clip of Jon Benet Ramsey participating at a Colorado beauty pageant has found its way into the video libraries of pedophiles across the country. Undoubtedly, the notorious video clip of Jon Benet Ramsey participating at a Colorado beauty pageant has found its way into the video libraries of pedophiles across the country.

These collections of pornography are often considered the pedophile’s most valued possession (Lanning, p. 28). It represents years of work and symbolizes, in tangible form, his inner most sexual fantasies and thoughts. The collection will consist of slides, commercial photos, souvenirs, toys, Polaroids and virtually any other type of material that relates to or displays any minute reference to child sex. Child erotica collections will vary in quality and quantity, often depending upon the economic status of the collector. Police have found that the older the pedophile, the more extensive the collection will be. Since true child pornography requires a clandestine effort to obtain, the majority of these collections will be erotic in nature as opposed to pornographic. And often the focus will be upon one or two aspects of sexuality. Preferential child molesters especially, preserve these types of collections and will do anything to safeguard them. Offenders have been known to make formal requests to the police agencies to return these items after their case has been adjudicated.

Lissa · 05-13-2008, 06:39 PM

continuing

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The pedophile collector falls into three general categories: closet, isolated and the sharer. The closet collector maintains and views his erotica in secret and does not molest children. This type of collector builds his collection in a clandestine manner and keeps its existence a secret. Sometimes, he will maintain this collection for years without the knowledge of a live-in spouse. The isolated collector is actually engaged in molestation and will display the material to a victim. The sharer-collector trades and displays the material with others and may do so for profit. He also will molest children and keeps company with other pedophiles. Since other criminals, like burglars, muggers, car thieves, rarely collect artifacts relating to their criminality, why do pedophiles collect? The answer to that question lies in the psychological characteristics of his condition. He has a twisted sexual compulsion for children whose origins are separate and apart from criminality. His deviance is defined as criminal only because society has deemed it so. Some pedophiles believe that they have done nothing wrong and are simply more enlightened than the general public. They feel they are part of a special progressive movement and one day society will come to accept, what they see as, their sacred ritual of adult/child sex.

From a practical standpoint, collections serve crucial needs for the pedophile. First, child erotica and pornography are used in his crimes. The pedophile will display this material to a victim to lower his inhibitions and introduce him to the possibilities of sex with an adult. This is a very important step in the seduction process. Secondly, the pedophile will use the material for his own sexual gratification. Often it is used in the arousal phase prior to sexual activity with victims. Still others will use photographs of the abuse to blackmail their victims into further sexual activity. After engaging in sexual acts with an adult, a complex set of emotions engulfs the victim. These emotions include humiliation, attachment to the offender and fear of exposure. The victim becomes extremely fearful that his friends and family will learn of the sexual activity and he will suffer harsh consequences. Pedophiles are familiar with these feelings and will use those emotions against the child. Pornography plays a pivotal role in the child sex offender’s life. But most importantly, it is the tool of his trade used to induct his victims into his sexual fantasies. This is why law enforcement is always on the alert to the onslaught of pornography on the Web.

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All about Pedophiles and Child Molesters by Mark Gado

Lissa · 05-13-2008, 06:51 PM

From personal experience, I can tell you that I have seen child pornography sites and the pictures on them are not all pornographic. They are pictures of children just like ours, playing with toys, swinging in the park, posing at a landscape. These perverts are stealing pictures of our children not only online but also in real life. They pose as photographers in parks. They frequent forums where photos of children are often posted. It literally makes me sick to my stomach. After coming across those websites (which I reported to the FBI, Center for Missing & Exploited Children and my local law enforcement), I learned never to trust anyone. Some would call it paranoia I guess. But, believe me, if you saw what I saw you'd be paranoid too.

musicmom · 05-13-2008, 07:41 PM

I'd report them as well Lissa. Karma comes back to jack holes like that.

HappyMomma · 05-14-2008, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Lissa

They frequent forums where photos of children are often posted. It literally makes me sick to my stomach.

I've seen this happen. A few years ago on a local parenting forum, one of the members came across one of those disqusting sites... they found pictures from our forum there. You won't believe how fast we started taking off the pictures of our children. It was quite an eye opener.

BTW, this was a local forum where most of us knew each other personally and would have weekly playgroup meetings and outings together. Fact of the matter is ANYONE can access the internet.

.:Kalli Rae:. · 05-15-2008, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by HappyMomma

I've seen this happen. A few years ago on a local parenting forum, one of the members came across one of those disqusting sites... they found pictures from our forum there. You won't believe how fast we started taking off the pictures of our children. It was quite an eye opener.

BTW, this was a local forum where most of us knew each other personally and would have weekly playgroup meetings and outings together. Fact of the matter is ANYONE can access the internet.

Oh wow, that is really disturbing.

Skyburning · 05-15-2008, 11:27 PM

I don't mind posting pictures of me or my child on the internet but of course I keep them appropriate. No pictures of Nolan in the bath..etc. No pictures that identify our location (schools, hospitals, etc.) You have to use your brain a little to stay safe but assuming you can do that, the internet is not as awful of a place as its depicted to be.

jtee · 05-15-2008, 11:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Skyburning

You have to use your brain a little to stay safe but assuming you can do that, the internet is not as awful of a place as its depicted to be.

I agree. The boogie man can be anywhere or anyone on the internet, but if you're smart person and don't live in constant fear, you are more likely to get hit by lightening than attacked by the boogie man who you met on-line.

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