Teresa

I would have told him from the beginning. I agree with the others that he should know sooner rather than later. As he gets into puberty, and starts trying to figure out who he is and why he is the way he is, he's going to see things in himself that aren't like you or Ryan, and wonder why...this way, it may make more sense to him.

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Amber

Well, at one time, Ryan and I had talked about him adopting Cameron. Now that the divorce has been done and stuff, I'm kind of glad we didn't go that route. (Long story)

I never meant to keep it from him, I just didn't want to make any rash, quick decisions in the matter. I think once I pick him up from Indiana, a few weeks afterwards, after he's had time to adjust being back home, I might sit him down and have a talk with him about it. Scared, though. lol

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mandrsmom

In my case my oldest daughters “sperm donor” never paid child support. When she was five and I was getting married to my husband, we said sign over rights or pay five years in back child support. He signed those papers so fast. My husband adopted my daughter, new birth certificate, and he has always been her dad. My daughter has always known of her real dad, and has a great relationship with his parents. (So do my husband and I). She spends summer with them, and thinks her dad is a looser. It really is true that they know who loves them and knows who their real parents are. At 16, she does not question who her dad is, he is the one who takes care of her, and loves her every day. Now my toughest problem is the questions from her little sis, just like you I think she knows, because we get the questions of why was sissy in your wedding, and where was daddy in this picture. We have not come out and told her that her sissy has a different daddy. I do not think she would understand, because all of her life if has been the four of us.

I agree with everyone else, tell him as soon as the time is right, he will know who loves him.

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