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BAKERSFIELD, Calif. -- A local man went to extremes on Monday to punish his teenage daughter.


He did so by making the 13-year-old stand at the corner of Stine Road and Stockdale Highway while holding a sign that said she was a liar and disrespected parents.

Clayton Delouth said it was a last resort and said his daughter had stolen money and items from him and his wife as well as a neighbor.

Delouth said while it wasn't meant to embarrass her, it was and added that the Puritans and judges have done it, "so, why not?"


But local psychologist Dean Haddock says that such a punishment will more than likely backfire and the best medicine is to open up the lines of communication between father and child.


Dr. Haddock says that if a child is acting out, like Delouth says his daughter has, it is probably a sign of a bigger underlying problem.

Haddock added that the best way to figure out the problem is through counseling and that can help parents figure out the appropriate way to correct a child's behavior.


Delouth says that if his daughter's activities continue, he may end up taking her to the mall to hold the sign again.

Father Disciplines Daughter In Unusual Streetside Manner - Bakersfield News Story - KERO Bakersfield

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Sirk

Of course it was. What else would be the point of holding a sign telling strangers what she did to her family?

I don't have any problem with having a kid feel some shame when they misbehave.

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1dayatatime

My parents actually threatened to do this to me. I really dont have a problem with it. I think personal accountability is completely missing in people these days. By standing there with that sign she's telling the world I lied to my parents and I stole from my parents. If you dont want to hold the sign then dont lie and steal. Whats that saying.....dont do the crime if you cant do the time. There is so much psychological mumbo jumbo out there how much of it is helping to develope indenpendent, confident, self suffecent people. Or are they just creating a world full of victims who blame all their problems on someone or something else. Personal Responsibilty.

*steps down from tiny soap box*

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Dadu2004

It reminds me of judges who dole out the unusual punishments for crimes committed. I think it's great...it's a punishment that child will never forget. I'd bet she doesn't do it again.

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HappyMomma

Agree. I feel that too many do not own the responsibility for thier actions. Heck, I see it at work in adults who try to cover up mistakes and blame others. It's sad.

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Cthru

I'm ALL for it!

Exhibit A - Daughter 1 after she was caught swearing



She had to wear this over a full weekend - even out in public.. we took her to blockbusters this way. People would ask her why she's wearing that and she had to reply 'Because I have a potty mouth'
(don't worry it was brand new)

It worked though!

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1dayatatime

Cthru thats funny. Looking back she will better understand and laugh. "I have a potty mouth"

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Cthru

hahah.. yah that was actually quite a few years ago.. she can laugh with me at it now.

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Mindy

LOL, I guess I'm just weird, but I would never trust anyone again who did that to me. I would never forgive my mom ever. That's what bootcamp is for if things are that bad. Shame teaches nothing, and I stand by that.

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Cthru

I'm thinking that might change when you have kids of your own.
Typical teaching and telling them things does not always work.. sometimes you have to get creative to get your point across.

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